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Our 5th BLOG-versary

Yesterday was the 5 year anniversary of this little, derting blog! 5 years ago when I started this journey....I was very sad and uncertain of what the future would hold and this became a way for me to release emotions and now reflect on the things that have changed over the last 5 years!! 

This became my outlet after we, the 3 dertings, experienced a miscarriage. We knew we wanted to space our kids out.....for several reasons, 1 in daycare at a time, 1 car at a time, 1 college at a time, and my little brother, Wesley and I are about 5 years apart....and he loves me lots....so we decided thats what we wanted for our kids as well! We were very excited that things were working out just like we had planned.....I was due in April, right near spring break, which meant I could take a long summer.....BUT those plans all changed on 9/29 in 2010.....we were really unsure that we would even try again....why chance it again.....maybe there was a reason for this sad situation......

So the leaves changed and I remember the 1st weekend of October just like it was yesterday.....sitting on the couch, looking out the sliding glass door at leaves blowing, sun shining, beautiful weekend....but I was far from enjoying my surroundings......I was sad, mad, hurt, who knows what else.....

After a few weeks things settled back down and time moved on.......and by November we had a little "turkey" in the oven.....we kept this little secret to ourselves, just in case.....but by Christmas I couldn't take it any longer!!! We were pregnant....

February came and we discovered near Bryson's bday that he would have a little sister.....Spring followed and the April that I dreaded in September seemed to be a little easier knowing Britan was still growing in my belly!!! 

And then JULY arrived...I was miserable, I was hot, I was miserable, I was fat, I was miserable, I was swollen, I couldn't find my toes, I was miserable....BUT on that last Saturday in July I was in pain and had no idea I was in active labor....by early afternoon we had our sunshine from those cloudy, sad days.....Britan Rae was here!!!

So #thedertings have changed lots in those short 5 years....we had Britan, Bryson started school, my career changed, Brooks continues to mark years off towards his retirement, Bryson learned to ride a bike, Britan learned to walk, Bryson learned to swim, Britan learned to talk, we have traveled, Bryson has continued to play soccer, Britan started preschool, we started running as a family, Bryson took his 1st EOGs, Britan started dance, we have made memories (my favorite).....SO many things have happened, have changed, and it never would have ended up this way had we never experienced that September......

For some reason September continues to be one of least favorite months....its not bad, its not terrible, its just not fun! So good-bye September until this time next year!!

Here's some of my favorite (well just a few) pics from the past 5 years!!

 Much love, Alysha

 












   
















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