Thursday, October 28, 2010

Oh my....I have A LOT to say!

My goodness what has happened to my week! Monday feels like ages ago and Friday still seems like a dream! Let's start with the BEST news of the week........Bryson ended his soccer season with a BANG! 2 goals in the net tonight with a total of 4 for the season!! I am sooo proud of him and all of his Blue Dog teammates. I wish the season wasn't over because he has grown so much in the last few weeks and I hope he is able to maintain his new found skills till the Spring. Also Congratulations to the Warrior Soccer Team....pretty sure they came in 2nd in the Conference tonight!!

I feel like I have only accomplished running around all week.....for instance we just walked in the door at 9:15. I know a couple of weeks ago I wanted to be busy and not sit around and boy did that dream come true. I feel like work has not been productive or successful all week with multiple meetings, field trips, testing, and the health fair. And tomorrow holds more meetings and the Fall Festival, so it will be another long one. However I have to remember to be thankful and grateful that the scary tornadoes and nasty weather this week did not have an impact on my family as it did others close by.

I am a little frustrated by actions, discussions, and certain situations that I have encountered this week. I am not sure if its me because my nerves are shot and patience are long gone or if its because everyone is stressed, me included. This is not meant for anyone in particular, so please don't be offended by my thoughts and negative feelings for the week. I am bothered because I feel that we often think that our own problems, issues, and situations are much worse than those around us. We find ourselves searching impatiently for solutions to our problems without considerations of others. I don't know what it is like to walk in your shoes or the burdens that your shoulders carry nor do you know mine, so lets stop pretending that life is suppose to be fair and everything is suppose to be equal because we both know that its not. We are all guilty of thinking that our problems are bigger than others when in all essence they probably aren't. Please mind your own business and worry about solving your problems instead of creating more for me or anyone else. Often if we would just do what is asked of us instead of finding ways around it or finding others to blame for it, we could have already accomplished the task at hand. Again this is not directed at any one person in particular, its just some things that have crossed my mind frequently this week on more than one occasion with more than one person and I feel the need to share.

Ok......enough Alysha......negativity only makes life miserable! I need to continually remind myself (especially this week) that my life could be much more difficult. As we were under the tornado warning at 10:45, Tuesday night, huddled in the hallway, praying that the supposed funnel cloud that was less than a mile from our house would steer clear of me and my family. That night I was truly living in the moment and for the present time because we didn't know what was coming next. A tornado could have easily uprooted our home and blown away everything that we have in seconds as it did for many around us this week. I got Bryson up and put him in the bed with us because I couldn't sleep knowing that although he is across the hall....in a tornadic situation that could mean we could have been ripped apart by one gust of wind. Granted we didn't get much sleep with a kicking 4 year old (awesome soccer player) and the wind that seemed to be howling outside our windows, but we were all together and that was all that mattered at the time. He was scared because he sensed my fear and he asked me if we could we pray to Jesus, pray that he would stop all the storms, keep our house safe, watch over the animals and keep all the people safe.......WOW! I love that boy!

So I end with this challenge for the weekend: lets take responsibility for ourselves, our actions, our consequences and lets stop trying to find ways to blame others, stop trying to make life equal because its not and it never will be, remember to look around because there is always going to be someone worse off than you and me. Before pointing the finger of blame in the opposite direction figure out if you could make a difference by staying out of it, if its not your business, see if you could make a difference by helping that person with their challenges instead of belittling them while they are trying! Let's all try really hard to at least recognize when we are in such situations.......

Have a FANTASTIC Friday, a SCARY Saturday (if that is when you will be trick-or-treating), and a BLESSED Sunday!!! Love you no matter what!! Alysha

Sunday, October 24, 2010

What a wonderful, waiting weekend :)

What a weekend to be in the GREAT state of North Carolina! There are a few heavenly treasures buried right around us in and near Statesville! We have experienced a few of the highlights this weekend. Friday kicked off the annual Balloon Rally in Statesville (they now call it a Festival, but that is not what I grew up calling it). This is an event that is one of Statesville's finest and the weather cooperated beautifully, so that it shined even brighter when the 1st balloon arose! Bryson and I parked across the rode from the airport's runway so that we had a perfect view for the 40+ hot air balloons that were in flight. Bryson was very anxious because he couldn't remember exactly what they looked like from last year and I of course made a big deal about because I have many cherished childhood memories from this event and I hope he will too. They floated right over our heads and some onto Interstate 40! My mom met us at our look out spot to capture the floating wonders as well! Afterwards we went to the good ol' Boxcar for dinner.....because mom loves their salad bar!  Thankfully, we turned in early Friday night because we had no clue what was a head of us for Saturday.


Saturday morning we planned to travel a little north to Jefferson to eat at a little, old, historic restaurant called Shatley Springs. This little diamond, still in the rough, has been around (as a restaurant) since the early 1950's. Their main feature is the country ham, but it comes with ALL the homemade fixings.....mashed potatoes, green beans, pinto beans, corn, slaw, cooked apples, biscuits, and fried chicken! It is a true southern, home cooked meal! We usually make the trip a couple of times in the fall because they close for the winter and this is the perfect time to capture the beautiful fall leaves. We called before we left to try and make reservations, but they were booked, so we took our chances and left home at 9:45 am. We got there around 11:15 and the lady said it would be an hour and 1/2 to 2 hours. So we waited.....impatiently because our cinnamon rolls from breakfast had worn off by that point. Brooks and Bryson played by the pond behind the restaurant and mom and I rocked on the porch. Well, 1:00, 1:15, 1:30, and even 1:45 went by and we STILL had not been called to eat. Needless to say, their sense of time is still a little prehistoric! FINALLY, we sat and began eating about 2:15 and finished up around 3:00ish.

In the back of mind, while we waited and waited and waited, I knew that we had to be back in time to see the balloons (again) take off because we had promised Bryson that we go into the Rally to see them blow up and float away. So I knew that we would be pushing it by staying so long in the mountains, but we had one more stop to make. On our way up we saw a cute, little pumpkin patch that we just had to check out. Remember we got pumpkins last weekend. Brooks and Bryson decided that they wanted to make a jack-o-lantern, which Bryson has never done because I am weird and I like to keep pumpkins through Thanksgiving and I hate to mess them up (I know I am crazy)! So we stopped at the patch and got another pumpkin to create a jack-o-lantern. We made it back down the mountain quickly because Brooks passed as many cars going down as he did going up. We got to Statesville about 4:30, stopped by the house to drop Brooks off and to grab some coats. And off we headed to the Balloon Rally to hopefully, be in the gate before they took off. HA HA, what a joke! The airport is about 5 miles from our house, we left the house at 4:45 and parked in the parking lot at 7:00!!! So again we waited and waited and waited! We saw the balloons take off from the car and they looked like they weren't going too far, but there were 2 that looked to be in the direction of the house. I called Brooks and he looked, but couldn't see anything, so we continued to crawl in the long line of traffic for hours. Brooks called back a few minutes later to tell us that one had landed in the front yard :( I was soooo sad that we were not home! He took pictures and invited them back for their Sunday morning flight. We FINALLY made our way into the Rally just in time to see the beautiful moon glow with the hot air balloons. We got lots of pictures and even got to talk to the #30 balloon that landed at the house. We ended the night at a Birthday party for a sweet girl named MaKayla! HaPpY BiRtHdAy MaKaYlA, sorry we were late :)

We told Bryson to wake us up when he got up on Sunday morning, so that we could go search for the balloons to find were they were taking off from for their final morning flight. Bryson didn't let us down, he woke us up at 7:00 am! We got up, threw on some clothes, brushed our teeth, and went searching. We could tell the wind wasn't blowing from our way, so we went a little southwest and found a field with 5 balloons laid out ready to blow up and fly away. We got a front row spot for these balloons and the others that decided this was the perfect distance to make it to their destination. We saw many take off and then we went and found some landing. After a couple more hours of balloon watching we got breakfast and came home. The boys have now craved the jack-o-lantern and the plan for the rest of the day is a swim and a nap!

The week ahead looks busy.....I have a workday tomorrow! I love workdays, don't get me wrong I love my kids too and the days pass a lot faster when they are there, but I can accomplish some things tomorrow, take Bryson to school for the 1st time this year, and not be tied down to a strict schedule! Tuesday is Bryson's last soccer game and then his team is having a party afterwards! Wednesday and Thursday look LONG with LOTS of meetings scheduled! Friday is the Fall Festival at Stony Point, so come out and have some fun! And Saturday we will create our little ______________  for Halloween!! You will have to wait and see what he will be :) Have a fun, safe, great week! Remember to make someone smile and help someone out every chance you get, its more for you than them! Love the Exhausted Derting's and Gaze!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

WHEW....is it really just Wednesday?!?

Oh my, I am not sure why I thought this was going to be a slow week at work because for the past 3 days I have looked at the clock and it has been 2:00 or after! Grades were due today for me, so that has been a MAJOR on the to-do list, but they are thankfully posted and off of my list! MAYBE tomorrow and Friday will be a little slower, I can only hope.

I should be cleaning the house instead of writing, but I need a minute to sit! My sweet boy played an EXCELLENT soccer game last night with a last minute goal for the Blue Dogs. He had an EXCELLENT cheering section as well. He really listened to Brooks about playing defense. I see him starting to grasp the concept of soccer more each game, which makes me very happy.....considering I am not sure if Brooks would be able to handle it, if Bryson doesn't pursue soccer. As most of you know Brooks is the JV Soccer Coach for West and LOVES the sport with great passion. I am proud of him though because he said he doesn't want to coach Bryson at this age because he doesn't want to push too hard and cause him to hate the game. Brooks will not be at his game tomorrow night because of his team's practice, but Mom and Terry will be there, so I hope that he will perform as he did last night!

Other than my craziness at work and Bryson's soccer schedule this week, I don't have much more to talk about! Amazing, huh? I have not yet had the opportunity to work on my challenge for the week, so I am hoping before Sunday I will have the chance. Hope you have had a good week thus far and that you have had the chance to make someone smile :) I better go because I hear dinner, laundry, and vacuuming calling my name VERY LOUDLY! Until next time, love you!

Sunday, October 17, 2010

The middle of October.......

Another Fall, October weekend has come and is quickly going. Another weekend at home and I must say....I can't take it much more! I told Brooks this morning, when we were ALL grumpy, that I think we have had a little too much down time at home. We have not been to the beach since Labor Day and for us that is VERY unusual and I think it is starting to take its toll on my nerves. Please know that I realize how fortunate we are to have some where fun and free to go on the weekends. Although when we are at the beach we don't do much, it's still a break from home and I need a break SOON!  

The boys went to the race Friday night and Bryson slept after about lap 30, but it was still fun for him to be able to experience that type of race. I went out with a friend to the Olive Garden and we had a fun time catching up on some things. Yesterday, the boys got haircuts, we went to a party at the park, and we went to the soccer complex to see our nephew, Caleb, play soccer. And today we finally got some pumpkins. I don't know why, I am usually more on top of getting pumpkins before now, but I just haven't felt the need this year until this weekend. So we gave the cleanest and the most round pumpkins in the pumpkin patch a new home for the next few weeks. Now I have some twice baked potatoes (a Derting family recipe) in the oven and steaks will be on the grill in a couple of hours. Grandma Hilda's homemade spaghetti sauce is in the crock pot ready to simmer all day tomorrow.

The week looks a little slower at work for the most part, but there is lots to do after hours. Soccer pictures, 2 soccer games, some swimming, and mom and Terry are coming on Thursday! We will be home AGAIN next weekend, but there are lots of things that I hope we will accomplish....the Balloon Rally will be in town and I can only hope that the balloonist will pick our fields to take off in, like they did when I was a kid. Bryson would love it, but we will have to wait and see how the wind blows. We are taking our annual trip to Shatley Springs next Saturday and I am VERY excited. Although we will be home next weekend we have lots to look forward too! Then I will be on the countdown to my "feel better trip" with mom to the Bahamas!!! Countdown right now is: 26 days :)

I feel like I should mention the fact that with all this time at home, my mind goes crazy thinking about how big I would be if I were still pregnant. I also, know that the time is coming to make the decision whether or not we are going to try again and that brings even more questions......do we try right away? do we wait, so it's not a summer baby? or do we just take our chances? because I feel that the lesson that I was suppose to learn....was that I can not plan my life, as I want it to be, no matter how hard I try! Anyway that is all I will say about the matter....we are 3 weeks out now and the experience has faded a little, but I still find myself with questions. 

Here is my challenge for the week: if you see someone in need, someone that needs to talk, someone that needs help opening a door, someone who needs a penny at the store...I challenge you to help. It doesn't have to be much, it doesn't have to cost a thing, just be kind, be patient, and most importantly DON'T BE RUDE! Say please and thank you and accept criticism with an open ear because it may make you a better person if you sit up and listen! I hope you will accept my challenge because in the end it will help you more than it will help the person on the receiving end! Have a great week! Love you all!! :)

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

I am not sure where this may go......

There are many things running through my mind. Nothing in particular that sticks out as good, great, terrible or bad. Its been a good week thus far. Work has been steady and productive and IEPs are in full swing! The house has managed to stay straight, laundry caught up, and we have cooked every night (that's impressive for soccer season). Bryson and I went for a swim tonight and I must say, I love watching him swim underwater like a BIG boy. I still can't believe how far he has come since the middle of June and I am so proud that we set the goal to teach him how to swim and that we have been able to maintain all he has learned by swimming weekly. I just put him to bed and read him a story. It was a short Halloween book, but he was able to reread most of the book to me, which again makes me sooo happy and thankful for that blue eyed, blonde headed boy.

So this is where I think I am suppose to go with this.......Zahra Baker is heavy on my mind and heart and I can't believe that ANYONE, especially a parent could do the unspeakable! Bryson makes our lives complete. When he makes me mad, he smiles back at me, and mad turns to glad. Glad because I know that no matter what he does, I could never harm him in the way that this sweet girl was obviously harmed. I don't get it! WHY? There are so many people out there that would kill to have a child, not kill a child. There are many out there that have lost children for reasons beyond their control and someone who is just ignorant and oblivious to a child's innocence has destroyed her life. This story makes me terribly sad for this precious child and for her despicable parents!

I pray that anyone that has not taken the time to look at their surroundings, no matter how big or small, no matter if there is new stuff or old stuff, take just a moment to realize that you don't have it as bad as some. I am so thankful, grateful, and blessed to know that I have Brooks, Bryson, our families, a house with lights, water, and food, a job that I love daily, EVERYTHING, everything that I could possibly need and so does Bryson. He doesn't know what it means to do without because he to is very blessed nor does he know what real, harsh punishment is. Yes, he may go to time out a couple (sometimes a few) times a day and I may raise my voice when he has pushed me to the limit, but he will never know the pain that a 10 year old girl in Hickory, NC had to endure. We have to remember when we come across new faces, they all may not be as fortunate as we are and we must be able to open our eyes to see if someone is in need of help before something tragic happens.

So I will end with this: say a prayer for Zahra.....that where ever she is, she is in peace and if she has made her way to Heaven, at least she is pain free now. Remember to look around and be thankful for everything that our full lives have and be willing to give or share if you come across someone not as fortunate. Be grateful that your child goes to sleep at night without worries of abuse or fears of repercussions. Be thankful, grateful, and blessed everyday for we all have more than most throughout this big world! Prayers and love for all in need!!!

Sunday, October 10, 2010

A weekend at the Derting's!

FINALLY! We have had a BUSY weekend and everything seems to be back NORMAL! We have been running all weekend, which is exactly the way I like it!

We got up early yesterday to go to Carowinds, to get a little more use out of our season passes. Bryson asked as soon as we got up...are we going to Bojangles for breakfast, like we always do? So yes we went for our normal breakfast trip before Carowinds. We got to the park when they opened and I walked straight onto the INTIMIDATOR and it did not disappoint! It felt GREAT riding the 3 minute 33 second ride with the brisk fall air hitting my face so hard that I had tears! I also, got to sit in the front row, one of the perks of being a single rider, I guess. Then we went to Snoopy land and rode everything there including the wooden roller coaster. I even have to say that Brooks rode the wooden coaster twice and the little yellow coaster, which is HUGE for him because he usually gets sick. Bryson and Brooks did the haunted house and I rode Top Gun (or whatever its name is now) and again I walked right on and rode with some very loud, teenage girls, but it was FUN! The boys went back to Snoopy land and I went for another ride on the Intimidator with a very spunky 12 year old, who was determined to set the record for riding the Intimidator the most in one day. When I rode with her she was on her 11th time in an hour and 45 minutes. I asked her what the record was, but she didn't know, so she is probably still riding! I finished out my roller coaster adventure on the Vortex and I must say it was much better when I was in the 3rd grade. I had the WORST headache when I got off, Brooks said its because I am getting old, but I think that its because the Vortex is getting old, not me! Bryson and I finished up by riding the scrambler with our hands up the whole time...and that is a workout in itself, my arms are still sore today. As we were leaving we stopped by Holw-O-Fest and Bryson got to pick a pumpkin in the pumpkin patch, we made it through the maze, and he played in the Foam Zone! Very cute place for the kids to play, I must say!!

Once we got home Brooks and I got ready to go to the West Iredell Ruritan Clubs steak dinner, raffle thingy. Every year my dad gives to the cause and gives us the tickets to go. So we went last night and enjoyed our salads, steaks, and baked potatoes with this adorable, older couple. They were really sweet and by the end of the night we figured out that we had a lot in common with one another. The nice little lady said she use to be a teacher in ISS and that she retired in 03. I asked what she taught and she said,"well I didn't teach regular ed I taught Exceptional Children...she followed with, do you know what that means?" Do I? Of course I do, that is what I teach. It was fun talking to them even though they won $100 and we won nothing, the conversation was worth it.

This morning we were awoken by a sweet 4 year old wanting to sleep with us about 7 am because the boy can not sleep past 7:30, which means he got this TERRIBLE habit from Brooks, not me! We got up and got ready and went to church. After church we had our weekly home cooked meal from the Talley House with the Deane's. If you have never been there, I suggest you go because they have the best home cooked food around and it beats K & W by a million to one! We talked with them for a while and then we went on to the Y to go for a swim. Bryson and I swam in the little pool because it was about 90 degrees and Brooks swam in the big pool and it was about FREEZING! We swam for about an hour and then we came home :)

Now, I have tortilla soup cooking on the stove and the boys have gone to Brooks' moms to work on a project. My house is back to normal as well....all floors mopped and vacuumed, all clothes washed and put away, bathrooms clean, and the house is dusted. For those that know me, know that this in its self makes me very HAPPY! A clean house is what I strive for and since the boys are not here I can enjoy it in peace for a couple of hours.

We are looking forward to another jam packed week of soccer and hopefully some more swimming. Mom and the boys may come next weekend to go to SCarowinds....which I am VERY AFRAID OF, but I am going to try and face my fears! Should be a good, quick week for us, we hope the same for you!!! Hope you all have had a GREAT weekend with your families......Love you!

Friday, October 8, 2010

All About the Deane's: HAPPY 5TH ANNIVERSARY

This blog is dedicated to Mr. and Mrs. Micah Deane on their 5th Wedding Anniversary!!!

Where to start? Well, let's go back about 10 years ago before Micah met Emily. Micah was mine and Brooks' boyfriend (I called him the 3rd wheel). Micah went everywhere with us......out to eat (we really liked HOPS), he went to Charlotte with us to look at car audio stuff about every weekend (you should ask Micah about some of our drives through Charlotte), we took several trips to the beach, and the boys always played with their RC cars in Stony Point on Friday nights. And then Micah meet his love at the RW! He spotted her through the big glass windows and it was love at first sight. This was sometime in April 2002 (I think)...Micah went with us to the beach for Easter that year, but couldn't wait to get home to see Emily. So our three-some turned into a four-some!!!

We share many memories with the Deane's since they started dating.......our favorite restaurant was Rock Ola (E and I are still sad that they closed). We all went to Pigeon Forge one year and we both had to get new tires on each of our cars because we both got flats, its a funny story now, not so much then! Then we went to Disney in 2004 and had LOTS of fun in that sweet little house near the Publix grocery store!! That summer Micah proposed and Emily was in a wreck the same day (that's something to remember). Emily and I spent the whole next year planning our weddings with many trips to the beach to purchase our wedding dresses and to find the perfect spot for them to say 'I do'! 2005 was a HUGE year for both of our relationships.....we all got married!!! We celebrated Micah and E's BIG day at the High Cotton in Cherry Grove on that warm October day!

Now here we all are 5 years later and our little friend family has grown with 2 sweet little boys! We continue to make memories with Deane's every week with our Sunday lunches at Talley House and our Tuesday night pizza night. So the Derting's would like to say HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO THE DEANE'S ON THEIR ANNIVERSARY DAY!!!!! Hope you have a GREAT day (Micah better do something special)!!! Love you guys!!!! :)

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Hopeful.....

I am very glad that this 1st week of October is almost over, that means that we are closer to Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. I am HOPEFUL that the next few weeks will go as smoothly as this one and maybe as quick too! The week has been good and very productive at work. Home is a little different since we have been on a soccer field, of some sort, every night, but I am HOPEFUL that my house will get back to normal this weekend when I clear the piles of clean clothes and put away the clean dishes.

I am looking forward to a FUN weekend with the boys....we decided to stay home and go to Carowinds!! I am HOPEFUL that the Intimidator will not disappoint!

We went to the doctor today, just for a final check-up and it makes me very HOPEFUL that this is pretty much over and it will soon be time to evaluate whether or not to do it again ;) The doctor seemed very positive and HOPEFUL that everything will be fine, if we try again!

My mom makes me very HOPEFUL because she has a surprise for me that HOPEFULLY I will be able to share soon!!! I am very HOPEFUL that it will make me feel much better!!!

So I will end with a challenge for you.....when you think things are bad and that they couldn't be worse, you must remind yourself to be HOPEFUL! You must not give up HOPE that things will turn out the way they need to be! Remember God gives us only what we can handle and we must be HOPEFUL while waiting for him! Love you and have a FANTASTIC Friday!

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

What a difference a week makes.....

What a great, fun, exciting, fantastic day!!!!! I had my 1st of the year, formal observation, this morning and my kiddos did GREAT!! We ordered lunch, as a staff, from Chick-Fil-A to support the Sherrill family!!! Almost cleared my to-do list today (it will be clear tomorrow)!!! Went to Bryson's game to find Brooks waiting for us with a new Vera Bradley pocketbook!!! Bryson scored, his proud mommy, a GOAL and I don't think I have ever been more excited!!! It's pizza night with the Deane's!!! And Teen Mom at 10!!! WOW! Look what a week can do!

I am going to make it short and sweet today.....I am so glad that we are a week beyond this sad time in our lives. I have realized with everyday that goes by, I become a little stronger. Although there are still a few times that I have caught myself questioning and wondering why, I just have to keep moving because time is the only thing that is going to make this sad time fade. Very thankful and grateful for a fantastic day and hopeful that the week will continue in the same way :) Thanks for everything and we love you lots!!!

Monday, October 4, 2010

Our 13th "dating" anniversary....

It all started 13th years ago on a Friday, mid-afternoon, standing on the 2nd floor of West Iredell High School near the (what use to be) computer labs, our junior year. Brooks was at the end of the hallway and I was at one of the classroom doors...I think that he was about to be late for class and I was about to go into my class....he said to me, "I know your phone number" and I said "yeah, what is it" and he recited my home phone number because (as hard as it is to believe) cell phones had not made their HUGE technological debut at the time. My reply to him was, why don't you use it sometime. So that night a friend and I went to the football game at Bunker Hill and on the way home I, for some reason, stopped by his house. When I left that night he hugged and kissed me goodnight...and I still can see this scene in my head, I had butterflies that night, and something told me that it was meant to be. So that night he used my phone number and called me, we talked till about 4 in the morning. The next day, I went to work at good ole' JCPenney's (please don't be jealous that I had such a COOL 1st job, ha ha) and Brooks came to visit me. He called again that night and we talked AGAIN till wee hours in the morning, this pattern continued for several nights maybe weeks. We for some reason broke up a couple of weeks later, I don't remember why, but we got back together quickly, so that we will call just a spat. The year went on and we made it to our senior year, by this year we were pretty much one of the more steadier couples and by the end of that year we "won" most likely to get married and live in Statesville....looks like we won the right superlative. Brooks was always very sweet and thoughtful and until a couple of years ago I had every letter (which were a ton) that he had written, that he had left in my car, every card, every movie stub, everything that we had done from the day we started dating. He would even drive to my house every morning to follow me to school and you might not think that is much, but he had to pass the school and go about 4 miles just to get to the house, so it was kind of a big deal for me at the time. We went to both our Junior and Senior proms together and if I knew how to work a scanner I would share those photos with you.

Once we graduated I went to Mitchell and he went to CVCC, he worked at Applebees, I worked at Zimmer Patient Care. He would come over every night, he would come in the house, walk by my daddy, say hello and come upstairs. We would watch TV, a movie, do homework, or whatever till he went home about 11 every night....this pattern continued for several years. Then he graduated from CVCC and I was commuting to UNCC 3-4 days a week. He got his job at the County and I had a great, part-time job at BB&T. This continued till 2004 when he FINALLY proposed. I had already, secretly, told myself that if he hadn't asked me to marry him by August of that year it would be time to reevaluate and decide if we were staying together or going our separate ways, but he answered that question for me in March that year!! We planned (excuse me, I planned) our wedding for the next 15 months, he wanted no part of the planning, all he wanted was to show up and that is pretty much how it went.

The summer of 2004, I got my 1st teaching job at North Iredell High School and was that a learning experience! I already told you how crazy 2005 started out, so we will skip to our beautiful wedding. Some of the guests may disagree because I picked the HOTTEST day of the year to get married outside. We got married beside of the big, white, Manor House at Tanglewood Park in the Arboretum. The day had arrived everything went pretty smoothly the morning of, I had my bridal breakfast, hair appointment, make-up appointment, and then off I would be to get ready at Tanglewood. The scene was set and I was on the horse and carriage ready to roll in at 5:00, when my dad came to me and said the preacher was not there yet! WHAT? Are you serious....I picked a kind of crazy weekend at Tanglewood because they were having their annual wine festival which brought 1000's of people and there was traffic backed up for miles on the interstate because of a wreck. So we waited about 20-25 minutes for the preacher and other guests to get into the park....so it started out crazy, but the night ended just as I had imagined...PERFECT. We were married, the wedding, from the pictures, looked beautiful and the next day we were off to the amazing island of Honolulu. We spent 10 wonderful days on the island and it was breath taking!

When we got home we lived in a little, 800 sq foot, block house that belongs to family. I made the transition to Alexander County that school year, Brooks continued to work at the County, and we were PREGNANT!! That year went by good and 2006 rolled around....Bryson came exactly a month early, but he was perfect, so that was all that mattered! I was at West Alexander Middle School that school year and I quickly realized that being 45 minutes away from my newborn was not working. So the next school year 06-07 I requested a transfer for the upcoming school year and I was able to transfer to the closest school from our house, but still in Alexander County, Stony Point Elementary. This is where I am now and have been for the past 3 years, love it, love the kids, love the closeness to home, love the people, love that Bryson will go there next year. In 2008, we bought my childhood home and my dear husband worked his tail off to gut and remodel 2 bathrooms, lay hardwood floors throughout the house, and paint every room (minus the kitchen) in less than 2 months! I am very proud of him and thankful that on that day in October 1997 something told me that he was the one! He is a great husband, an even better father, hardworker, excellent coach, good role model, and most of all he is still my Brooksie Bear :)

So here we are....13 years later and millions of memories that I could continue to share with you! We have a very blessed life and we are very grateful that you are a part of our lives! We could not have made it to this day without many you being there to support us, love us, and share many memories with us!! Lots of Love to you on this Loving Anniversary Day in October!!!

I LOVE YOU BROOKS ROBERT!!! <3, <3, <3

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Where to start...

I am not sure today! It's not a bad day, but it's not the best day, maybe just a blah day.....do you ever have those days? Nothing stands out as great, but nothing as terrible either. Brooks and I had fun last night. We went to the Melting Pot and it was delicious!! If you have never been, I highly recommend!! Also, I recommend that you don't do the whole meal....the past couple of times we have gone we have only gotten a salad (which they have the BEST dressing that I have ever found), then we do the cheese fondue, and then we get the chocolate fondue. We have found that this way you are not stuffed by the time the chocolates come, but yet you are still full when you leave. This is also, $50 cheaper than getting the "Big Night Out"....I don't like meat that much anyways, so Brooks usually eats most of the meats when we do the whole meal, so it is well worth just getting 3 for us. Afterwards we went to Concord Mills and did some shopping and Brooks even tried to get me to get a new pocketbook because I am still carrying a summer one (which I even hate to admit out loud) and I said no, so you should be impressed.

I am so glad that today is the last day, that I can say to myself.....this time last week everything was ok. I kind of lost it a little bit last night when we saw the stupid Motherhood Store. I am not sure why because I dislike this store and I think its too expensive for what they have, I guess it was the simple fact that I don't have a need for that store right now and I felt myself being bitter!

So what have we accomplished this weekend.....the house is clean, the car is washed, yard work is done, we had a date, we watched Remember Me (it was sad and not what I expected), we were together as a family, and the one that sticks out the most....we are 3 more days beyond this experience. So what is the agenda for the week....well, work everyday, soccer games M-Th, then it will be the weekend again. Decisions to make about next weekend...go to the beach, maybe? Go to the corn maze, maybe? Carowinds, maybe? Either way we have fun things to look forward to next weekend, which is the way I like it. I don't like not having a plan or not being busy because then I am forced to sit here and dwell and right now I don't want that.

So today's entry, is not the best....nothing great to say, nothing cute that rhymes, just nothing. Tomorrow's entry will be much brighter and upbeat for tomorrow is our "dating" anniversary and I plan on taking a stroll down memory lane! So tune in tomorrow for something much better than today! Hope you have a great week and know that we love you!

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Did you sense my negativity yesterday?

I did and I don't like it! I don't like going to bed with bad things running through my mind. I don't like thinking that 10 weeks ago everything was fine and another child was just a question. Is it bad that I want to turn back time and erase this whole thing? I think, in my thoughts, last year at this time we were happy without a care in the world, then winter, spring, and most of the summer went the same way and now this. My problem is I can't stop questioning why we did this....were we 100% sure that we wanted another baby, I can't answer yes to that because I don't know if we were. Were we trying so that Bryson would have a sibling because we thought he needed one, maybe. Did we do it because I was tired of the questions....when are you going to have another one, perhaps. Did it happen because having more than one is the norm, you tell me, is it? Was there anything wrong with the way we were before, NO! Were we happy, YES! Am I sad now that 10 weeks has drastically changed the past 4 1/2 years, YES! We always said that we would not try again until Bryson was almost in school, so that way we wouldn't have 2 in daycare, 2 that need cars (around the same time), 2 in college. This has been our plan from day one when Bryson was born and maybe that is why I was eager to try because that timeline was starting to expire and YOU know me....got to accomplish my to-do list, so that I can check it off and move onto something new. So is that why we did, I don't have an answer. Now the lingering question in my mind is: try again? And if we do try again, are we doing it for the right reasons or are we now doing because I need to prove to myself that I can do this because I don't like failure! I need help answering these questions and right now Brooks hasn't been much help with this because he has said whatever I want to do, we will do and truly I don't want that responsibility at this moment. So for now the question will continue to run through my mind, so I am going to leave this negativity in this paragraph and I am going to move onto a new one RIGHT NOW!

So this morning my 2 sweet boys let me sleep till 9:45 (because I am not a morning person, if you didn't know that), when then I was greeted with kisses and a cheese bagel from McDonald's. Aren't they sweet? And now I am sitting on the couch making myself better by writing this and looking out the sliding glass door at the beautiful fall leaves and the sunshine. The boys are outside playing with the dogs....let me tell you about our "animals" we have a pug that Brooks got me for graduating college in 2004. He is 6 (wow, he is getting old) and his name is Jaxson. Then we have Weedeater (named by Bryson) we got him when we moved into the house the summer of 2008 because we have lots of fields around us that bring lots of field mice, yuck! Then there are the billion fish and corals that Brooks raises and sometimes sells. We have 4 saltwater tanks in our house...let me try and get them right. We have a 120 gallon in the living room, Bryson has a 34 gallon nano cube in his room, we have a 180 gallon in the basement and 65 gallon frag tank also in the basement. And then there is our newest edition a nice, big, 130 lb St. Bernard given to us graciously by my brother, Wesley, this summer. His name is Diesel and he is 2 years old. He is a very sweet boy and he, Jaxson, and sometimes Weedeater have their own condo in the basement. Jaxson use to live in the house and I let Diesel try for about 4 days when I realized that sweeping a whole dog of fur everyday and cleaning slobber from the ceilings daily was NOT for me. They are very happy and content in the basement because they each have a twin bed to sleep in and the beautiful fish to conversate with (spell check is telling me that conversate is not a word, but I don't care b/c I think it sounds good).

So the plan for the day is for the boys to mow the yard, which will probably be the last time of the year, and for me to clean the house, which is what I do BEST and I like to call it my best talent. I have to share this with you, when we had Brooks' party in August I invited some of his co-workers and one of them told him later that our house was "freakishly clean and weird that it is so clean".......this is a HUGE compliment in book and I was grateful to hear this because that means that my talent shines through :) Then I think Brooks and I may go on a date....I would like to go to the Melting Pot, but I haven't suggested that yet, so we will see. For now I hope you have a GREAT Saturday, thank you for reading and please continue to read because it makes me feel good to share in the best way I know how: writing!!! Enjoy the beautiful day and know that the Derting's love you :)

Friday, October 1, 2010

Some firsts for the 1st of October.....

I experienced many firsts today on this 1st day of October. I should start by saying that I am very glad that I have turned my calendar over to a month that looks better and brighter than the last. For some reason September has never been my favorite month and right now it's falling at the bottom of the list.We are entering one of my favorite times of the year and I am very optimistic that it will bring fun times and great memories just as the last few months of the year always do.

I went to work today and I am happy that the 1st day back is over....I will never face this day again. It wasn't a bad day, many people shared their thoughts, shared their hugs, their love, their smiles and that was all ok! This morning I had my 1st breakfast of champions since finding out....I have been eating fruit loops and drinking orange juice every morning since school started, so today I had it for the 1st time (go figure it tasted the same). I wore a long sleeve shirt for the 1st time today since sometime in the Spring, which I have mixed emotions about because I like my summer wardrobe better than my winter one. Wrote my 1st IEP of the school year,  for those of you who know what that is, knows that it was so much fun. I came home today to find that Brooks had cleaned the house, for what I think is the 1st Friday ever (I am not saying he never cleans, I am saying I think it was the 1st Friday I can recall because I am usually home before him), so thanks dear :) We got pizza tonight, which we had pizza night already with the Deane's this week, so that could be a 1st, pizza twice in one week.

I am a little sad about something today....we usually spend this weekend in TN at our cabin tucked away in the hills of Pigeon Forge for our "dating" anniversary. Brooks has been picking on me for years because he thinks a "dating" anniversary is silly now that we are married, but I think without that "dating" anniversary we wouldn't be married, so we should continue to celebrate, right? We always go the 1st weekend in October because the 4th is our anniversary and we always stay in the same cabin because he proposed on the front porch of the cabin above on March 13, 2004. This is our special place, that makes me happy and I have been apprehensive to book this trip this year. I told Brooks I didn't want to go because we have been for the past 8 years and we just went in the Spring, so what is the point, been there, done that, several times. I think it was the little voice telling me that this was not a good weekend to do this, so that is why we had planned to go to the beach. So a big 1st for us is that we are not on our way to TN right now nor are we on our way to the beach.

Tonight we will spend watching Netflix just like last Friday night, but there is an obvious difference from tonight and last week. Hopefully, there will be some Friday's again that are like last Friday, but for now we will enjoy these Friday's were we are not running around with a million things to do, like we often are. Until then we will embrace this new month that we have entered and enjoy the weekend doing something as a three-some and that will not be a 1st. Love to you and yours!!

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